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10 April 2020

Good vibes, Good life

White cover of self help book with text good vibes good life


If you love self-help books that enable you to reflect and empower yourself then this is the book for you. I have bought similar books over the last few years and borrowed from the library but I prefer to own self-help guides as I can dip in and out depending on my mood - it’s not really a book that you could read from start to finish in one or two sittings. (I mean you can if you wish to do so, and maybe this is just a reflection of my laziness when it comes to reading).


I really agree with Vex’s quote ‘Sometimes you have to unplug yourself from the world for a moment, so you can reset yourself’. I shared a picture of the quote on my Insta stories, and it made me laugh at myself because clearly I was not ‘unplugging’ whilst reading that particular page, but sharing is caring, right? But I do like to stay away from social media or if I don’t totally avoid it I won’t read comments on pictures and videos because it’s important to give yourself time to develop your own opinions and understanding of something, whether it’s a news story, a social cause, or an outfit - and not base your views on someone else's opinions, either consciously or subconsciously.


I follow Venetia Falconer on Instagram, who takes part in a 48 hour digital detox every week. I really want to try this, I haven’t mustered up the courage yet. The thought of not going on social media for 2 days is scary (I know, so dramatic), and even more so during this period of isolation and physical distancing, and I have definitely been living through my phone the past weeks just to feel slightly normal and connected. However, as Ramadan is coming up, I believe this will be a great challenge to take part in leading up to it, and during, as it will be a great time to connect with myself and to not be dependant on social media to feel like I'm keeping in touch with people. But instead try to have more meaningful interactions such as a good old phone call.



page from book with self care quote

Good vibes, Good life

10 April 2020

4 August 2015

Is my make-up 'on fleek'? | Social Pressures of Beauty



I think it's safe to say that the contouring craze that has taken the beauty industry by storm is not going anywhere soon, initially due to the Kardashian/Jenner clan but now it is an essential step in everyday make-up for many people. Other trends taking over are the long, strong brows and now 'strobing', which is just basically highlighting without a leash but yeah, it does sound very cool. I personally love experimenting with contouring and highlighting by using different products and techniques but I often have to remind myself that I'm not suddenly going to look like Kylie Jenner or all those girls on Instagram, but just me but with lots of make-up on! I'm pretty sure we've all wanted to look like a certain celebrity or one of our friends at one point and there's nothing wrong with that, but what concerns me is the pressure around us telling us we have to look a certain way.

Throughout social media there is so much pressure for all females, make-up wearers or not, to look the same and have everything on 'fleek', otherwise they are made to feel they are not of the same worth than women who are blessed with (or have created the effect of) flawless skin, dark shapely brows, amazing cheekbones and full lips. And no, this isn't just me imagining this social pressure, all you need to do is scroll down your Instagram feed or your YouTube subscription box to see these being laid out. Of course I understand that lots of people are just following the latest trends in beauty so it's very easy for everyone to look the same, but, following a beauty trend does not call for people to judge and shame others for not looking the same as them.

I've been seeing a lot of this on social media, too many times in fact, where women are called out as being 'basic' for not looking a certain way. The sad fact about all this is that this shaming and pressure is from women themselves, who are pitting against each other and putting each other down for the way they look, which is so trivial compared to the many issues we are all facing. I've seen these pictures (below) being posted on social media, and lots of different variations also, and okay some people might be posting these as a joke but then you see some women who are being serious with this attitude. What do these people want me to do? Have brows that are good by their standards so I'm at the same level than them, but only then to be seen as a 'fake' at the same time?


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 I really wish there was a solution to this whole problem, but I think the simplest thing to do is to stop judging one another. If you don't want to wear make-up then good for you, but please don't see women who wear it as fake. Women who wear make-up, please stop looking down on non-make-up wearers as being 'basic' or not being 'cool'. Basically the message of this post is 'do what you want but STOP JUDGING'. The idea of beauty is ever-changing and there's always going to be a certain type of look that's trending, but we should be able to look past this image of beauty and it should never blind our views on others and ourselves.

Is my make-up 'on fleek'? | Social Pressures of Beauty

4 August 2015